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Therapy That Honours Spirit and Nervous System

Some healing asks us to talk. Some healing asks us to listen to the body. And for many of us, especially Indigenous relatives, healing also asks us to remember spirit, land, kinship, and the teachings that kept our people alive.

From my perspective as a Blackfoot-Métis therapist and the owner of Flower In The Wind Therapy, the most respectful therapy is the kind that doesn’t force you to choose between who you are and what you need. It honours your nervous system and your spirit. It makes room for evidence-based tools and Indigenous ways of knowing, without turning culture into a performance or a checkbox.

Why your nervous system matters (and why it’s not “all in your head”)

If you’ve lived through trauma, chronic stress, grief, racism, family violence, addiction in the family, or systems that harmed you, your body often learns to stay on guard.

That can show up as:

Anxiety, panic, or a racing mind
Feeling numb, shut down, or “not here.”
Anger that comes fast (or anger you can’t access at all)
Sleep issues, nightmares, or exhaustion
People-pleasing, perfectionism, or always bracing for conflict
A deep sense of shame that doesn’t match who you truly are

These aren’t character flaws. They’re nervous system strategies, ways your body tries to protect you.

In therapy, I don’t treat those responses like problems to “fix.” I treat them like messages. We slow down, get curious, and build safety first.

Why spirit matters (and why I won’t minimize it)

For many Indigenous people, spirit isn’t separate from mental health. It’s part of the whole.

Sometimes what hurts isn’t only what happened to you, it’s what was taken from your family line: language, land connection, ceremony, parenting teachings, safety, belonging. That kind of harm can live in the nervous system and in the spirit.

In my practice, I hold space for:

Grief that has no clean ending
Intergenerational wounds and the strength that survived them
Identity questions (Métis, Indigenous, reconnecting, mixed heritage, adopted, displaced)
The pull to return to teachings, community, and ways of living that feel true

I’m also careful not to assume a “one-size-fits-all” Indigenous experience. Your Nation, your family, your beliefs, and your boundaries matter. You get to decide what belongs in the room.

What “two-eyed seeing” looks like in the therapy room

Two-eyed seeing is a way of holding more than one truth at once. From my perspective, it’s one of the most respectful frameworks for healing work:

One eye honours Indigenous knowledge: relational healing, seasonal teachings, community accountability, spirit, and the wisdom of the body.
One eye honours Western clinical tools that can be genuinely helpful when used with consent and cultural humility.

In practice, that can look like:

Grounding and resourcing skills to help your body feel safer (before we go anywhere deep)
Narrative work that helps you reclaim your story without shame
DBT-informed tools for emotional regulation and boundaries
Trauma therapy approaches like EMDR, when it’s appropriate, and you feel ready

And it also includes the Indigenous-focused approaches I’m trained in and actively use: Indigenous-Focused Oriented Therapy and Indigenous Tools for Daily Living. From my perspective, these supports help translate teachings into grounded, everyday practices, so healing isn’t only something we talk about, it’s something you can carry into your week.

The goal isn’t to “be strong” by pushing through. The goal is to build steadiness, so your life can open back up.

How EMDR can support the nervous system (in plain language)

EMDR is a trauma therapy that helps the brain and body reprocess painful memories that feel stuck, like they’re still happening now.

People often come to me saying things like:

“I know it’s over, but my body doesn’t.”
“I keep getting pulled back into it.”
“I’m triggered by things that don’t make sense.”
“I’m tired of talking about it, but it still runs my life.”

EMDR isn’t about forcing you to relive everything. From my perspective, good trauma therapy is paced, consent-based, and grounded. We spend time building safety and supports first.

And if EMDR isn’t the right fit for you right now, that’s okay. Therapy is not one tool; it’s a relationship and a process.

What you can expect with me (especially if you’ve been harmed by systems)

If you’ve had a bad experience with therapy or healthcare, I want you to know: I take that seriously.

And I don’t say that as a script. I say it because I’ve lived the consequences of being failed by the mental healthcare system. I lost 15 years of my life due to a mental health misdiagnosis. From my perspective, that kind of harm changes you. It also sharpens your ability to recognize when a system is asking you to shrink, stay silent, or accept care that doesn’t fit.

I’m also a mental health and healthcare advocate, and I work with national organizations to build a better system because people deserve care that is accurate, humane, culturally safe, and accountable.

Here’s what I prioritize:

Consent and choice: You can say no. You can slow down. You can change direction.
Plain language: No clinical jargon to make you feel small.
Cultural humility: I won’t ask you to educate me or defend your identity.
Trauma-informed pacing: We build safety and skills before trauma processing.
Whole-person care: Mind, body, spirit, relationships, and community all matter.

I offer virtual therapy across Alberta, British Columbia, the Northwest Territories and Saskatchewan and in-person sessions in Calgary.